Mr. Dr. Jahan Al -Omran
At a time when the small screen area became larger than the area of our hearts, the mobile turned into the “smart thief” for communication, and sitting with the other no longer means listening to it, but rather a physical presence absent in the mind, which is contested by the alerts, messages and colored flashes on the screen of this small thief.
The ear was one day a gateway to the heart, and the word was a bridge towards deep understanding. Today, the conversation is also thrown as stones in a well that has no echo. We see the scene itself is repeated at home, at work, and during social meetings: people sit together, but each of them is drowned in the smart Mobil screen, listens to the distant world, and deafen his ear from his near world.
The mobile changed the rhythm of the dialogue, so the conversation became amputated, and listening is disorganized. At home, the child speaks, so his mother, busy, does not hear him to scroll on her mobile screen, and at work, the employee tries to express the opinion of his manager, so he does not receive a listening ears, because he is the last busy on the mobile screen. This rift in listening not only kills communication, but also weakens the human ties that only flourish with full attention.
A recent study from the University of California has indicated that people who are constantly exposed to digital alerts suffer from weak focus and ability to listen effectively. This chronic dispersion not only affects memory, but also weakens the quality of human relations. If no one listens to you, it is completely similar to being invisible, which is very dangerous, especially in the upbringing of the new generation, as listening has already become a forgotten skills, despite being the most influential in the quality of human relations, and effective listening does not mean just a commitment to silence during the conversation of the other, but rather requires a mental and conscience, honest, and the ability to understand the feelings and meanings that may not be explicit And tones and eyes look .. It also encourages open communication between individuals, builds confidence and familiarity in relationships, and enhances the feeling of appreciation and respect.
In the past, mothers knew what was going on in the hearts of their children from the tone of sound or the spark of the eye. Today, the picture is completely different, the days pass, without anyone paying attention to the other, and everyone is busy with his digital isolation, father, mother, brothers and friends. The other is with you, but he is not with you, as he always misses the moment of listening, because he was inspecting a notice, or writing a quick response to an application.
The repetition of this behavior not only weakens the skill of listening, but gradually nullifies the feeling, and gives us the superficiality in the reaction, because we give brief responses, cut off, rush to rule, and neglect the fine details that make up the essence of the hadith. What is the result ??? Topped dialogues, superficial relationships, and mysterious feelings.
Loss of listening is a loss of human warmth. Where you see the other talks to you from his heart, while your mind wanders between ads and videos. To forget how to listen, means that you lose the key to understanding and sympathy, and to leave the other suspended between the words of what was said, and it was not heard ..
Perhaps it is time to put our phones aside, even for a moment per day, and to discover the pleasure of listening. To look at the eyes, follow the words, read the feelings, and interact sincerely, to reach the hearts and minds of others, for the phone will always be there, and the sincere moments are never repeated, so let us live and enjoy them so that the smart mobile does not steal them even because you are stupid.
* University professor in psychology
