He was talking to me, and suddenly silence, a person who seemed to be “spoiled” was responsible. He told me: So and so is his strong personality! I asked him: How did you know?! He answered: They are afraid of him! I asked him: Do you mean that his style is free from respect for others?! Or has a permanent “bullying”?! Or deals with “arrogance”?! He was surprised and shaken by his head, so I said to him: This is not a strong personality, but a weak person!
Many make their understanding of the definition of “strong personality”. They think that its owner is the one who is always angry, who is always angry, who imposes himself with screaming, taunting and domination. They imagine it as a person who does not smile, does not soften, does not soften, and does not review his decisions. They believe – here the error – that strength means arrogance, and that prestige is gained only by force, and that respect is only attained by planting fear in the hearts.
Unfortunately, this is a stereotype that prevails in many social and professional environments, and it has produced distorted models of leaders, managers and individuals who think that cruelty is a path of prestige, that screaming is a kind of leadership, and that verbal violence and threats to prove the self.
The strength of the personality is not measured by sound, but deeply the effect. The strong person is if he attended, he attended the balance and wisdom was manifested.
It is the one who feels reassurance, not anxious. He is the one who pushes others for the better, does not intimidate them to be silent. The power of the true personality is manifested in the ability to influence the positive, in building those around you, not to demolish them, in stimulating the difference and not destroying it, in creating an environment in which everyone feels that they are visible, audible, estimated and safe.
The strong personality does not impose its decisions in an authoritarian way, but rather is convinced of it with intelligence and confidence. She has enough courage to decline in her decisions, and she apologizes if she makes a mistake, and gives others their space to be seen.
The owner of the strong personality does not need to “frighten” others to feel the power, because his presence himself imposes respect without the need for threat. He is the one who runs people fairly and fairly, not who humiliates them to feel power.
He is the one who connects the force with values, not with chairs and positions. He is from his voice rising only when he sees injustice, and when values are violated, not when an employee makes a mistake or disagrees with his opinion.
Whoever thinks that screaming on people, mocking them, and dominating them is what makes it a “strong personality”, in fact suffers deep internal weakness, hiding him behind a curtain of fabricated cruelty.
It needs to address this imbalance; Because the strong, it is the one who owns himself when he gets angry, and people treat telegram even at the height of the difference.
The strength of the personality is not to fear you, but to respect you with their will, and trust you from their depths, and feel the gap of your absence, not to leave a burden on them.
