Mr. Dr. Jahan Al -Omran
We see there are many people when they face a problem, or they are fighting a psychological war with others whose weapon is silent and not the tongue, and the winning station will have to wait and calm instead of recklessness and screaming.
The high voice reflects a weakness in its owner’s personality; Because an attempt to win by making the decision using the highway of the emotion without using the mind with a convincing argument or proper logic, so it is a bump without grinding its fate of failure. As for the silence that reflects the inheritance and wisdom, its result is the fruitful harvest. And as one of them said: “Raise your words and do not raise your voice. It is the rain that grows roses, not thunder.
When we sometimes face some differences with others; Because of the difference in views of some matters, this fuel feelings of anger in our souls, and we may resort to tongues with tongues with the other side because of this dispute, which leads to the exacerbation of the matter to the unimaginable consequences.
But if we gave ourselves a period of silence and calmness, we will find that the feelings of anger will calm down, then we can realize the situation as it is, the dispute will go away and the harmony will go back. Here the silence is a protective method of falling into the clutches of anger, so that we do not fall victim to recklessness and take stray decisions by unleashing our tongues to fight a losing verbal battle in a moment of anger that we quickly regret, but it is too late.
At other times, we see that silence gives an opportunity to listen to the viewpoint of others, and sympathize with them, in order to realize the truth of the situation instead of boycotting them with words, and creating an atmosphere of tension and mental confusion that intends to see the face of the truth.
Sometimes silence is a period to give the soul golden moments in order to meditate before making any fateful reckless decision related to our lives that may lead to negative consequences that result in a feeling of sorry and remorse after it is too late. But we have to realize here that it is not intended to silence is that devil who is silent about injustice in fear and silence from saying the truth in a cheese.
It also does not mean that we suppress our feelings instead of expressing them sincerely and frankly, so that this does not lead to psychological exhaustion and internal combustion, but what is meant by that positive silence that is an indication of the enjoyment of sound psychological health, self -confidence, a sense of internal peace, and satisfaction.
So it is important to take the decision of silence at the appropriate time and in the appropriate position to be a smart way in dealing with the problems of life so that the golden silence is an opportunity to attend awareness and realize the truth instead of the reckless speech that makes us stink in the darkness of ignorance and darkness.
* University professor in educational psychology
