Mr. Dr. Jahan Al -Omran
The life we live in is not furnished with flowers and flowers as we dreamed and we are young children, but rather difficult and full of challenges. Each of us has its style in facing challenges .. Some of us when he faces a failure or a painful refraction that falls down to fall down. This type of collapse does not carry the seeds of the rise, but rather withdraws a person to a cycle of frustration, despair, and perhaps the loss of meaning. It is a moment when the mind stops positive thinking, and the pain turns into an internal surrender. This fall occurs when a person does not find someone to hold, or when he loses his confidence in himself and around him.
Among his examples: a person who lost his work and surrendered, and he did not try to advance again, but rather closed the chances of himself. Or a woman who was an emotional shock, withdrew from all relationships, certainly that no man deserves confidence. Or a patient who decreased in his health, so he lost the desire to treat, as if the disease was concerned with his hope.
The fall down is not only a difficult situation, but an internal choice, when a person decides to stay at the bottom. This type of fall is not translated into awareness or change, but rather to psychological paralysis.
Therefore, the most dangerous thing about this fall is the residence in it for a long time, so that some think it is an irreversible destiny, and not a temporary stage that can be overcome.
We all face in our lives moments of failure and frustration, but what determines our destiny is not the failure itself, but how we responded to it. This idea is the essence of the principle of “falling up” that Shawn Achor is proposing in his book “The Advantage of Happiness”, that is, instead of looking at failures as the end of the road, we can turn it into points of departure towards success. Akour explains that failure is not an obstacle, but an opportunity to learn and grow, pointing to the concept of “post -trauma growth”, as some people come out of difficult experiences stronger and more wise. The key here is to find meaning in adversity. When we face failure, we have three options: Either we remain stuck in a state of despair and blame conditions, or ignore the lesson, and go ahead without benefit, or choose the third road: “fall up”, where we use failure as fuel for improvement and progress. For example, a person may lose his job, but instead of surrendering to anxiety, he can look at this experience as an opportunity to develop new skills or explore better professional paths, and the woman who is an emotional shock because of her husband’s betrayal of her and the association in the arms of another woman who realizes that he does not deserve it, and begins to think about investing in herself, enhancing her independence, developing her capabilities and talents
The matter here is not about ignoring the pain or pretending that everything is fine, on the contrary, we must feel pain, and that we are going through moments of sadness, this is a natural thing. But the matter here is about changing our way of thinking. When we see failure as a natural part of the journey of success, we become more flexible and prepared for future challenges.
To achieve this transformation, Akour suggests the practice of “Reframed” where we look at failure from a different angle. Instead of saying: “I lost everything,” we can say: “I learned a valuable lesson.” In addition, supporting others helps us convert failures into opportunities, because strong relationships give us strength and hope.
In the end, “Falling Up” is not just a slogan, but rather a way of life that enables us to turn every obstacle into a step in the ladder towards success.
