Mr. Dr. Jahan Al -Omran
We live in a multi -faceted world, full of contradictions. There is joy in exchange for sadness, success in exchange for failure, richness in exchange for poverty, and health for illness. We each have a share in life, so we have money, and does not have knowledge, and from us who has money and knowledge, but does not have the offspring, and from us who has all this and that, but does not have health. Life is far from perfection, for perfection of God alone.
But we find some people who suffer from the perfection «Perfectionism». If a small child came to his mother to show her a drawing that he has accomplished while he is proud of him, then her reaction will be to say to him. And if a groom applies to one of the girls at the age of marriage, you must find a defect in it, such as saying: “He is a good and educated young man, but he is from a humble family”, or “but a religion”, or “but short”, until the marriage train misses it. The perfection is not limited to evaluating external things, but extending. To accomplish the tasks where the perfection does not accomplish action except after delaying it over and over again, for fear that it is not ideal, then the time is lost on him, until he sees others ascending before him in the ladder of promotions, even though he is more than one of them capacity and efficiency, so mastery alone is not sufficient for him, but he seeks perfection alone who remains in a continuous search for it without success. And we see al -Kamali – even in his social relations – looking for the “ideal friend” who is not without a defect or a shaath, and he never finds it, as this is mean and that is envious, until he finds himself alone without friends.
In fact, such people will never reach their goals because they have no existence on the ground, so the result is that they find themselves fall into a cycle of hesitation and postponement of what they would like to achieve because they are afraid that their performance will be insufficient or their options do not amount Existence. This luxury tendency not only affects their social relations, their achievement in their work, but also extends. To their view of themselves negatively, they sit while they feel the sorrow, remorse and constant frustration. So it is no wonder that we find that psychiatric clinics are filled with this type of perfect person.
Success in social relations and mastery of work is not achieved in reaching a fake summit that nests in the mind of its owner only, which is the perfect tendency, but in feeling satisfied and convinced with what we have and we prove our feet on the ground, and that we accept ourselves as we are with our advantages and deficiencies, and sometimes overlooking the faults of others, and from the tiring fine details, and that we accept the error, because it is a human imprint, and we have to treat it By taking advantage of it to improve our performance, developing ourselves, and whoever does not make mistakes does not grow or learn, and whoever waits for perfection will remain standing in his place, watching the mirage while he thinks that he is approaching him, while he is in fact moving away from him more and more.
* Professor in educational psychology
