Amal Muhammad Amin
In recent years, Arab societies have witnessed a remarkable increase in divorce rates .. I have seen with my eyes a family that was demolished under the insistence of one of the two parties to divorce, you hear or hear it says, “I do not want to continue the situation has become unbearable!”
In the last divorce case that I witnessed a lot; They were married to love .. A story of stories early links since college, and they continued a step by step in building a marital nest, until God blessed them with three children in the utmost beauty.
Everyone was talking about the discipline and intensity of the husband, the wife’s intelligence and high aspiration .. Each of them had different ideas about the future .. Was early marriage the reason for divorce? Or does love make the parties see everything perfectly unrealistic, and when the couple lives life with their pain, their abuse and problems, the truth appears and the split occurs?
Certainly, the divorce is not a matter of it, as it is the most hated, and it occurs for multiple reasons that differ every time, but one of the most prominent reasons for divorce is the building of the family from the beginning on unrealistic perceptions. Many couples choose their life partners based on an ideal image drawn in their minds, inspired by romantic films and series, or even from the experiences of others, without looking at the actual reality of the marital relationship and its real requirements.
Dependence on the ideal image and its negative impact
When choosing a life partner, some may be attracted to surface qualities or the initial impression that reflects a defect -free image. At this stage, fascination is controlling the mind, which makes the person ignore the faults or real challenges that may face the relationship later. One of the two parties, or both, depends on the idea that the partner is the “dream boy” or “the ideal husband”, forgetting that every person has weaknesses and disadvantages, and that the marital relationship requires a common effort to deal with these defects instead of her denial.
Reality after marriage
Once the real marital life begins, the two parties discover that the reality is very different from pre -perceptions. Each party begins to notice the defects that he did not see previously, and he is disappointed when the partner does not behave according to the ideal image he drew for him. This feeling of let down gradually leads to the accumulation of problems and misunderstanding, which increases the possibility of disintegration of the relationship.
The importance of realism in choosing a life partner
To avoid falling into this problem, individuals must be more realistic when choosing a life partner. There is no complete person, and every relationship needs to be understood, conceded and continuous. It is necessary that the choice be based on real knowledge of the partner’s nature and the extent of the compatibility of values and goals, and not merely on temporary admiration or unrealistic expectations.
The most important thing is that the spouses have the ability to take responsibility, love and giving .. for each other to see the other away from feelings, and it is better that there is a engagement period preceding the marriage so that each of them knows the nature of the other.
The role of education and media in enhancing the realistic image of marriage
The media plays a major role in forming perceptions about marriage, and it is necessary to provide a more realistic image of marital relations rather than promoting the ideal, undesirable models. Family education also has a fundamental role in educating children about the importance of realistic thinking when making the decision to marry.
Finally, I say that building the family on unrealistic foundations often leads to failure and divorce, because ideal expectations do not withstand the stress of real life. Therefore, awareness and realism in choosing a partner, and mutual understanding between the spouses are the key to a successful and stable relationship. Marriage is not just a pink dream, but rather a partnership that requires patience, effort, and sacrifice from both parties.
