Princess Sulaibekh
It doesn’t take a burning match to burn the world, but rather it needs you to be the can of gasoline that gives it this privilege. This is what anger does to us.
There are many things that awaken the dormant anger in me. Burning matches follow me from here and there, and I see them looking at me with half an eye, calling me to enter into a conflict with them, but I try to be wise and ignore them as much as possible, so that the world does not catch fire. I always imagine that I am carrying a can of gasoline above my head. I am afraid that it will spill on others, and I am even more afraid that their fire will reach me – harm them, and I will be the first to be burned.
Who knows? Maybe this is what some people strive to do on purpose! Therefore, I remember this box when I deal with people. I try to preserve it as if it were a trust that must reach safety. I strive to cross the minefields planted under my feet. I maintain my steadfastness, calm, tranquility, morals, and endurance until the day ends peacefully, without internal or external fires, and thus I have passed the exam.
I learned anger management because I realized that managing people is more difficult, and that all I own and what I will be held accountable on the Day of Resurrection are myself and my reactions, so I tamed my nerves. I don’t want to fall into the trap.
What also makes me vigilant is that anger is one of Satan’s entrances, the easiest to escape and the most harmful. Because once the door of anger opens, and the fire begins to burn, nothing will stop it until it consumes everything that is in front of it. A simplistic attitude could lead to disastrous results. Imagine that someone passed you in the street, and he made you angry and you insulted him, so he became angry, and here the fire awoke, and it will not be extinguished easily before it harms you…and measure all the situations in your life based on that.
I am not telling you not to get angry, because anger is a genuine human feeling, and the Holy Qur’an did not forbid us from it as much as it called on us to control ourselves and control our nerves, and here lies the strength. The power is to understand yourself and know what sets off this raging fire in you. Are his feelings hidden and ignored? Or as a result of situations you did not deal with and preferred to escape? Or are they long accumulations that you have not sought to empty? Knowing the answer is what will turn situations in your favor, and will make you better at dealing with the anger dormant inside you. Thus, anger turns from an enemy into a friend because it guides you to your faults and helps you deal with them and get rid of them.
The danger is not in anger, but in the continuity of repression and the inability to deal with it. In the end, we are human beings, and people do not treat us according to how we feel, as much as they treat us according to our reactions. Try not to turn into a time bomb capable of exploding at the slightest situation. The fire will consume you first.
