Amal Muhammad Amin
I read a story for a husband complaining about his emotional dryness towards his wife after nine years of marriage! He used to say that he could not tell her the word “I love you”, although she does all her duties towards him and towards their children, and that he felt that marriage was for stability and only children, not about love. His wife, in turn, complains about his silence and his lack of interest in feelings, as he wonders: Can he change?
This story is not strange; Many live under one roof, but they are deprived of expressing love, as if feelings are unnecessary luxury. The truth is that love is not only a silent feeling that inhabits the heart, but it is a life of life that revives relations and builds bridges of affection between people. The Messenger of God ﷺ presented the finest model in expressing love and praise, so he made good words and caring touches as a way to revive hearts, whether with his wives, his companions, or even children.
The Prophet ﷺ was a role model in expressing his love. He was not ashamed to declare his love, but rather announced it in front of the public to teach us that sincere love is an unnoticed pride.
These situations are not transient compliments, but rather clear messages: that expressing feelings is not a luxury, but rather a necessity for affection.
Many husbands or wives believe that what the other party offers is a “duty” that does not deserve thanks or praise, and this is an incomplete understanding. The human soul needs appreciation in order to continue to give in a good spirit.
When the husband says to his wife: “Thank you for a meal” or “I liked your arrangement at home.” These words give her a motive for more creativity. Likewise, when she thanked her husband for his effort at work or his positive position, she cultivates in his heart the feeling of value.
Praise .. the key to positive education
– Children in particular feed the words of encouragement.- When your son succeeds in a small mission, and this meets with a smile and praise, he will seek to repeat good behavior.- When you praise their efforts, not only the result, you are cultivated in them the value of diligence and perseverance.
Solve the problem of emotional drought
Emotional drought does not necessarily mean that there is no love, but rather it may be behavioral or a method of emergence that made the expression of feelings difficult. To overcome it: 1. Graduation and positive cost: Even if you do not feel comfortable, try simple words daily such as: “Good morning, the most beautiful wife”, or “I am proud of you”. With repetition it will become a natural habit. 2. Rotin change: Set aside time to talk to the partner away from TV or phones. 3. Learning from role models: Reading the Prophet’s biography with meditation, and following his gift in the cute, smile and good word. 4. Thinking about the effect of words: Remember that a small phrase may change the day of a person you love. 5. Psychology training: Put a daily goal to provide 3 praise phrases to your husband – your wife or children.
Dear husband, dear wife, the showing of love and praise is not weak, but rather powerful and emotionally intelligence. This is what Islam recommended, and the Messenger of God ﷺ applied in his daily life. The relationships that are fueled by the advertiser love and the constant thanks live longer, and produce more healthy and reassuring souls, whether between couples or between parents and children.
Let us make our words bridges, not walls, and let us remember that a “good word” may be more valuable than any gift.
