Mr. Dr. Jahan Al -Omran
The internal hadith is that continuous gossip that is taking place in our minds. It begins to describe this voice, which can be positive or negative, and psychological studies indicate that we may talk to ourselves at a rate of 4000 words per minute. It is that silent voice that accompanies us, moment by moment, we rarely notice it, but it deeply affects our feelings and behaviors.
What I am dealing with in this article is that dialogue that takes place in the minds of ordinary people with themselves, and which may carry encouragement expressions, skin, anxiety, or even irony. What many people do not realize is that the quality of this conversation contributes to drawing the features of our image about ourselves, and in forming our behavior towards the challenges of life.
When we say to ourselves, “I am not good enough” or “I will definitely fail”, our minds begin to believe these phrases, and interact on this basis. We are frustrated, we hesitate to make decisions, lose the ability to risk or grow. These sounds become like hidden restrictions that limit our capabilities, and the doors of opportunities are closed before us.
On the other hand, the realistic, realistic hadith does not mean that we deceive ourselves, or deny the difficulties, but rather to deal with them with faith and flexibility. As if we say: “This is difficult, but I learn”, or “I need time to improve”, or “maybe I failed today, but this does not mean that I am a failure.” Such phrases stimulate the areas of hope and flexibility in our minds, and give us a boost to continue.
Simple examples, a child learns to ride a bike. If he says to himself: “I am stupid, I cannot.” He will lose enthusiasm quickly. But if he said, “I will try again,” he often continues until he succeeds. Likewise, a student who faces difficulty in a specific subject, if he speaks with himself in a support language, he will seek to improve his level without his self -confidence collapsing.
The first step in changing our internal conversation begins with awareness. To be alert to what we say to ourselves, and to re -formulate it in a language with respect and understanding. This is not easy at first, but it is an exercise that can be acquired over time.
Your conversation with yourself is either a gate towards maturity and confidence, or a imprisonment of doubt and frustration. Choose your words carefully, so that your fate is one of the two options.
In the end, we are only the ones who hear our internal conversation, and we only can direct it to our favor, not against us. And if we do not have a support for ourselves, then who is?
* University professor in psychology
