– In many transactions between individuals, it has become customary to stop at every word, behavior, or even a look, as if it deserved to be investigated and accountable, regardless of the size or simplicity of the situation. With the passage of time, excessive scrutiny turns into a pillar in the communication style, creating an environment full of alert and fear of making any mistake, even if it is spontaneous or unintended. A person, by his nature, is not infallible, and sometimes he may make mistakes forced or unconsciously.
– Many think that scrutiny of the mistakes of others is a kind of victory or self -confirmation, but they ignore that this behavior may spoil any relationship, whatever its nature. Constant scrutiny generates a feeling of distress and aversion, and pushes the other side to withdraw or closing, especially if he feels that his mistakes – no matter how small – are held accountable. What is worse is that the auditor himself may have greater mistakes, but he ignores them while highlighting the lapses of others, which makes him unfair in his rulings.
– The head of a family is visualized by the pressure of life, sometimes falling into grave mistakes and sometimes in simple slips, but he always finds himself in the blaming and scrutiny goal. Inevitably, his relationship with his family will be affected, because continuous criticism creates an irreversible emotional distance. And the opposite is true, the family of the family that puts his family members under the microscope of criticism in the small before the big, will turn life into a continuous series of betrayal and frustration, and will not reach real family stability.
– In the work environment, if you are responsible for a team, be sure to build an atmosphere with respect, confidence and spirit of cooperation. Constant scrutiny kills enthusiasm and turns the employee into a body without a soul, which negatively affects productivity and ultimately leads to the loss of competencies. Successful people realize that neglecting small details and leaving an area of flexibility is much more important than busy in hunting errors.
Conclusion: Satan dwells in the details, but the wisdom in choosing any details worth scrutiny. Focus on the fundamental matters with a real influence, and neglecting transient lapses, in order to maintain your relationships of any kind in peace and wides. Do not let your presence a source of tension or grumbling, but rather make your presence emitting reassurance and mutual respect. Life is a major school, and negligence is an art of the arts of preserving relationships and continuing them successfully.
