Princess of Sulaibikh
There is nothing more harsher than being born with features that do not appeal to others, except that we raise and program that we do not deserve love unless we are “beautiful”. The child does not see a deficiency or ugliness in his face, but he learns with the passage of time through comments, looks and comparisons, that he is a human being who has another arrangement in the social ladder.
Ugliness is not a physiological characteristic, but rather an idea that is planted within us, which keeps us from our original self. When you say to yourself, “I am ugly”, you do not describe yourself, but rather hesitating without an external judgment, and you believed in it, and with the passage of time it turns into accumulated pain, a feeling of lettuce, and a bitter silence in the niche of beauty with narrow standards. What we see in the mirrors is not always our truth, but sometimes it is the sum of the rulings that we have been silent for long and we are reluctantly accepted because it came from people we think they are really more beautiful than us.
We live at a time when the definition of beauty was disturbed, and it is subject to new criteria that were not previously present. Thus, the faces turned into projects to compare people and determine their social positions accordingly. Your face, which you carry, wherever it is, is your battles, which is the reason for obstructing your life and the heart of its scales. According to the new standards, you may be unresponsive! You are a fatty material for bullying and perhaps creating content via social media! This creates continuous anxiety and silent questions: Am I enough? Do I deserve love and I have this face? Questions are not born from the inside, but are imposed on you from the outside, from a society that is used to judge only the apparent, and the apparent is false!
The solution is not in mirrors or pimples behind perfection and perhaps plastic surgery. The solution lies in restoring the relationship with the soul to its origin: as a residence we live in, not as an art exhibition that offers paintings to others, with the need to dismantle the link between features and value, you are not your face. And your value is not derived from it, but rather from being a creature from the spirit of God and this is the greatest advantage for you.
Freeing from the idea of ugliness is not a courtesy of the self, but rather a conscious and bold act. It is the restoration of a person to his right to be different without feeling shame or deficiency, and a victory for the meaning over appearance. The true beauty is not in the matching of the image with an ideal model, but in harmony with the self, and to see ourselves with compassion, not the defect.
In a world that recoves faces every day, perhaps the most beautiful thing we do is to fix our view of ourselves. Our features do not need to be beautified, but to understand and accept.
