Have you noticed that the older child is more responsible, or that the middle tends to flexibility, what appears to be the smallest is more indicative and fun?
This is not a coincidence, but rather what psychology refers to for many years, that the impact of education on children is different, despite the agreement of the method that we raise them.
Psychologists affirm that the arrangement of the child between his brothers plays an important role in shaping his personality and his interaction with the world around him.
In this report, we review how the child’s arrangement in the family affects his psychological and social features, and what parents can do to support each child in proportion to his position among his brothers.
The older child
It is often seen as an extension of parents.
Distinguished qualities
He takes responsibility early
Printing leader
It tends to perfect and achieve
Sometimes he is militant or afraid of failure
Why?
A virgin child lives for a while alone with parents, receives intense attention and is sometimes treated as a “model”, which enhances his feeling of the necessity of excellence and self -reliance.
The middle child
It comes after the family has started stability, and lives between the pressure of the greatest and the smallest pamphlet.
Distinguished qualities:
Flexible and tolerant
A diplomatic and a peaceful
He seeks to prove himself in different ways
Sometimes he feels negligent or marginalized
Why?
Because he does not get the full “privileges”, neither as the largest nor as the smallest, so he tries to be distinguished by different behavior, and acquires the ability to negotiate and acclimatize.
The younger child
It is often spoiled, and receives excessive love and tenderness from all family members.
Distinguished qualities:
Social and fun
It loves to attract attention
Sometimes depends on others
Creative and free thinking
Why?
Because parents are often more lenient with him, as he receives special attention from his older brothers, which establishes the feeling that he is “distinguished.”
The only child
It is a mixture of all of the above, but it lives the experience without brothers.
Distinguished qualities:
Mature at an early age
It tends to independence
Calm
He may feel lonely or high pressure
Why
Because it receives all the parents ’focus, which enhances its mental and social development, but it may lack the spirit of competition or fraternal interaction.
Is this an imperative?
Of course, these qualities are not fixed rules, but they are general patterns that may be affected by several other factors such as individual differences, the method of education, the social environment, and the time differences between the brothers.
How can parents deal smart?
Do not compare the children
Give each child his privacy and appreciation
Watch the needs of each son according to his arrangement and circumstances
Support the middle child so that he does not feel neglect
He taught the largest that leadership does not mean domination
He encouraged the younger to take responsibility without being deprived of emotion
