A. Honorable Hammad
There was a girl named Mary, and she always compared herself to her friends, she saw one of them better in studying, and another more beautiful, and a third social ones, she was frustrated, but with the passage of time she started realizing that everyone had his own experiences, and that the comparison between herself and others is not beneficial. She decided to focus on developing itself in a unique way, thus achieving distinctive successes in its fields.
This is a symbolic story about “comparison”, as our children often compare themselves to others at a stage of their lives, and they are affected if their colleagues have skills or talents they do not possess, for example if a student is honored at school; Because of his superiority in a skill, they were not honored, or they saw that their colleagues have social relations and they do not possess this skill, here the negative comparison begins, so they live in a state of frustration and harmful feelings; Because of their focus on what others have and not what they have.
It is our duty as fathers to teach our children awareness of their conversation with themselves when comparing themselves to others, instead of our son saying: “Why do I not be like so and so, he possesses many talents and skills besides that he is very social, and has the ability to form relationships with others?” We should encourage him to focus on his skills and talents, and help him to mention them. We must also be careful to highlight his capabilities and strengths, and we mention it constantly. This helps him to improve his way of talking to himself, so he starts from his skills and capabilities. He can say: “I am strong in talking to others, but I am not strong in forming relationships with others, and I am able to develop myself to gain this skill.”
Based on this, if the son set out for a positive comparison, and focuses on comparing himself himself and with the capabilities he possesses rather than comparing himself to others, then this start will enhance his self -confidence and appreciation for himself, and that comparison will bring him positive feelings that will be the motivation towards his development, development and elevation.
